sad goodbye; peaceful beginning.
First of all, I suppose I should apologize to all of you for going so missing-in-action. My first little explanation is that I had written a fairly long post about a week ago, but lost the entire thing when my browser crashed – after that, I guess I got a little frustrated & hadn’t quite mustered up the motivation to re-write it. & other than the cliche, “I’ve been so busy” excuse, I’ve really got nothin’.
My dear high school friend Sheldon passed away on June 3. Although it breaks my heart to say goodbye to such a young, sweet person, he was sick most of his life & I am so very grateful he is no longer in pain. We had, for the most part, lost touch over the past couple years, but I am so blessed to have known him.
Death is always such a strange thing. I have lost a few people throughout the course of my life and have been connected with others who have dealt with losses of their own, but each time I cross paths in some way with this tragic event, it is shocking & heartbreaking. Though it is always quite a wakeup call, for some reason, this one hit me much harder than many have in the past. I’m not sure if it is simply because he was so young, or whether it was someone who I was in close contact with through much of my high school years, but the moment I found out, it was as if my heart dropped out of my body & crumbled.
I began to think of how quickly life has the ability to change or even to end. I thought about the shallow frustrations, unnecessary arguments, & needless complaints I face with the people around me & couldn’t help but feel as if I have wasted so much time on pointless negativities. In the end, these are short-term problems that seem to take up so much time that could be used for the simple joys of life & spent in the company of those you love.
It’s something I’m learning. It’s something I’m working on. I am grateful for my life & I am overjoyed that I have been blessed to be surrounded by such amazing people. None of us know how long our time will be & I have a lot of things to do & a lot of people to love before I am ready for that to come to an end.
xoxo.
Sorry to hear about your friend. May he rest in peace.
Thank you for your kind words. He’s in a peaceful place now & it comforts me to know that.
My condolences, Jess–so sorry to hear.
Thank you, Heather – you’re very sweet!
So sorry to hear about your friend. May the happy times you had together surround your heart.
Thank you, Renee! That does mean a lot. We had lots of good laughs & I’m just blessed to have crossed paths with him, even if for only a relatively short time.
Sorry to here about your friend. I have recently lost an uncle and several family members in the past couple years. Actually have been writing about it too. Thank you for sharing. Never easy to lose a loved one. These times certainly brings perspective of how we are not promised tomorrow. May healing come and wisdom follow~
Maribel, I’m so sorry to hear of those you have lost. It really is a difficult thing to approach & handle, but it can also be such an awakening realization that it can be a blessing in many ways as well. Thank you for your sweet words!
Beautifully written, and lots to think about… I’m sorry for your lost. he looks sooo sweet in the picture. It is easy to get lost in negativities and complains… I like to think of death as a bitrh on the other side (au-delà in french).
Thank you very much. He was definitely a very sweet person & always had a smile on his face. I’ve honestly never thought of it in that perspective, & I do like that a lot. Thanks again for sharing, it means a lot!
Sorry for your loss. Your entry is a great reminder to cherish our loved ones. Thanks for sharing
I know this is a little bit late but I hoe everything is ok with you and you are feeling stronger. It is always sad to lose someone. It’s often worth trying to lose yourself in something I find, like art. Creating anything whether music or poetry etc may help at least soothe the wound if not heal it.
Xxx
I apologize for taking such a terribly long time to respond to you. Thank you so much for your sweet thoughts, I do appreciate it.
Hello. I am sorry about your friend dying. I had to comment and say, I love this part, “In the end, these are short-term problems that seem to take up so much time that could be used for the simple joys of life & spent in the company of those you love.”
I am going through the process of learning this, as well. It’s hard to not focus on the little things that get in our way of enjoying life and all those that are a part of it with us.
To happy and content days,
Naia.
Naia,
Thank you for your input on this post! It was most definitely a sad time, but I’m confident that everything works out the way it is meant to. You are so kind to take the time to read and comment. I agree that it’s extremely hard not to focus on the small things, but it’s so very, very worth it!
Thanks again!
Jess